Many people are unaware that ALL relationships go through stages. Stages in which if people are not ready for, can really take them for a loop. Years ago my pastor, taught us the difference in seasons of relationships, and it never fails that when faced with a new relationship...I walk through them in view of what he taught us years ago. He said that all relationships whether it be a business relationship, a parenting relationship, a marriage relationship, or church or organization relationship goes through several stages. I've found out in various times in my life that these stages are lived out in progression. But if you keep the end result in mind, they'll all pan out the way they should.
#1. The Ecstasy Stage: This is where you fall head over heels with her curves and great personality and quirky little nonchalant-ness (if that's even a word), and his muscles and his attitude, the businesses ability to earn more money for the family, and the positions possibility for increase. These are all great and ALL relationships should start off like this. I believe that it is healthy because in the progression of the relationship you may need to refer BACK to this place as a reference point on your feelings of "Where have you been ALL my life?"
#2. The REALITY Stage: This stage is where you figure out and realize that those curves that you were in love with have a bad attitude sometimes and Mr. Muscles and attitude's breath is not ALWAYS the best. The Business you started may not be as easy as you though it would be, and the goals you've set may not be as in reach as you thought it would be. Its that day when you realize that the person, business, or relationship that you've entered into may not be as perfect as you thought they/it would be and it is in THIS stage that you MUST make a decision because the NEXT Stage will MAKE or BREAK that relationship.
#3. Problem Stage: Uh OH...Mr. Muscles got caught looking at Suzy Q, and Ms. Curves got caught not telling the FULL truth about Her "Big Brother" ((Sidenote: Single people if someone says 'Oh Thats Just my Brother/Sister' Your response should be is that 'Yo Brother/Sister or A Brother/Sister?')) This is where you as the person have to work through those tough situations that no one wants to face. But you see there is one thing that I've learned about trouble...it doesn't last ALWAYS...Its like the rainstorm. Its here and it seems pretty bad, but you weather it...because you remember what the sunlight felt like, and you are eagerly awaiting its return! This is the time you ride it out. Stay committed to your goals and dreams and reflect back to #1...Remember what it was like when you first SAW Him/Her...Remember what it felt like when you first held your son/daughter in your arms...reminisce on the day when you were so optimistic about your future...and the present problem will soon be bearable. It is in this stage that you TRULY make a COMMITMENT!
#4. The Commitment/Covenant Stage: This Stage is ONLY for the STRONG at HEART & Soul...you can ONLY make it here when you have a FULL perspective on the prior 3 and STILL have the wherewithal to continue to the End. Sometimes this decision has to be made QUICKLY, but some cannot make the decision to continue going forward to where God has called them to be in that business, relationship, or job because the pressure is on. But its in the HEAT where the Gold is made pure, Its in The HEAT where the raw materials of flour, eggs, sugar, and spice make the PERFECT Cake...Its in The HEAT where the TRUE WINNER is Birthed!
I love working through these processes because it just goes to show that there is nothing new under the sun, there is nothing too hard for God, and there is NOTHING that You CANNOT DO!
So today before you give up on that person, business, job, opportunity...Take a minute to see where you are in the process Ecstasy, Reality, Problem, or The Commitment/Covenant Stage!
Keep it Movin....Love YAll!
TS
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